I was walking along a busy city street with my friend Ella* late one Saturday night when she noticed an attractive male across the street. Ella commented on how handsome he was and how she wished he would cross the road and speak to us. Suddenly the man, who appeared a little inebriated, broke into a drunken dance on the street. Ella was horrified and immediately concluded that the man was grotesque and undesirable.
Women are more fickle than men. An attractive man can just as easily become unattractive by making bad dance moves, sending awkward or too many text messages and by exhibiting creepy or desperate behaviour. It’s a man’s actions that determine his continued attractiveness. Looks don’t matter once the immediate attraction has occurred.
Women on the other hand remain attractive to men despite their actions. A women could be wearing an evil clown mask and wielding a chainsaw but if she’s attractive, almost all men will look past it. We’re not saying that all men are superficial, but at the beginning of the dating experience (during the vital attraction stages) a man’s actions are far more important than a woman’s.
*Ella are I are platonic friends. She became attracted me after we first met at an engagement party in 2010 but quickly changed her mind after I urinated in the pool.