Why Men Move Overseas
It’s long been common for men in their 20s and 30s to move overseas. While many will trot out the usual trite explanations like they need to ‘find themselves’ or ‘career advancement’, there are many other reasons men move overseas. This article is timely as my co-author is heading overseas in a few months. His explanation is that he just wants to experience life somewhere else but the reality is he’s:
- suffering from an existential meltdown; and
- running from a variety of people we’ve upset through this blog and his former boss who is due to be released from a three year stint in a mental health facility, which was entirely caused by said co-author.
So what are some of the reasons men move overseas?
They’re running from their lives.
The reality is that many men who are heading overseas do so because they’ve found themselves in a rut. They’re sick of the same boring nights out at the same bars they’re getting to old for and hearing the same friends complain about the same problems over the same brand of tap beer week after week. They believe heading overseas and finding new friends, new bars and new tap beers to sample will alleviate their malaise.
With everyone else in this age bracket bragging about lavish weekend trips to Paris from their base in London on Instagram, your average single man quickly develops a ‘fear of missing out’. With the clock ticking down until they need to stage a marriage to a local to even get a week’s accommodation in the UK, your average millennial will zoom over to London and do a standard one or two year stay, hanging out with and dating people they grew up next to in Australia. They will subsequently return when they get sick of same boring nights out at the same British bars they’re getting to old for and hearing the same Australian friends complain about the same problems over the same brand of British tap beer week after week.
They can lie.
Let’s face it – this is the big one. At home, when you lie about your job, salary and women people can chip away at your bullshit easily. Spending five minutes talking to your colleagues or checking out Payscale.com will quickly tell your sceptical friends whether you actually earn as much as you say or whether your promotion to Associate Manager of Internal Backward Overflow and Development carries the level of responsibility you say that it does. When you claim to have bedded 20 women in the past six months but no one you’ve been out drinking with can remember you so much as kissing one, people can see through your bullshit. And they’ll talk about it endlessly behind your back.
By moving overseas, it becomes instantly harder to verify any of these claims. You can say you earn whatever you like, no one can possibly question how your love life is going and posting a few snaps you found of 5 star accommodation on Hotels.com on your Instagram account will no doubt set tongues wagging.
Taking it further, by moving to a non-English speaking developing country, you can completely fudge your job title and use the fragile local economy to generate impression of ridiculous wealth while barely digging into your first world savings. The reality is that even a Trainee Hydro Ceramic Sanitation Specialist (dishwasher) earning British currency while working in Bangladesh will be able to maintain the illusion of success by renting a lavish apartment, hiring a maid and buying a giant TV, whilst paying a twelfth as much as he would at home.
So Bear readers, if one of your pals is heading off overseas, assume they’re earning the same or less as they were at home, that their job title is bullshit and they’re doing no better in Tinder than they were at home.